Mediation offers you an opportunity to resolve key issues in your divorce quickly and at a lower cost. However, in order for mediation to be successful, you need to decide where you are willing to compromise and what is non-negotiable.
How Mediators Address Non-Negotiable Issues
Mediators see their role as pushing reluctant parties toward agreement. They will attack non-negotiable issues at different times and from different angles, sometimes pairing them with negotiable issues to see if there is any room for compromise. You and your attorney need to decide how you will address the mediator’s efforts to push you into discussing your non-negotiable issues. Often, the easiest approach is simply to note that the point is non-negotiable and try to move the discussion back to a topic where you are willing to compromise. In the end, in order to get the result you want on non-negotiable issues, you will need to convince the mediator that you are not willing to discuss those issues.
Flexibility Is Key
At the same time, you need to be flexible. If too many issues are non-negotiable, then your spouse will have no incentive to negotiate with you. Save the non-negotiable position for those issues that are critical to you and show your willingness to compromise on others. Your Richmond divorce mediation lawyer can help you sort through the issues and identify those that are truly non-negotiable.
Benefits of Mediation
In the end, even if your spouse refuses to accept the position you’ve taken on non-negotiable issues, mediation can still be useful. By reaching agreement on topics where both of you are willing to compromise, you reduce the number of issues that must be addressed at trial. This result can save you time and money by making the trial shorter and less complex.