Tips for Weathering the Storm of Divorce

Handling Advice from Others

Divorce is stressful, and our families provide necessary comfort. During your divorce, keep your family close to you, as your family members can be your best allies. Still, even the most close-knit family will have some degree of conflict when one member goes through a divorce.  

Weathering the storm of divorceAny issues you may believe that you have with your family right now could simply be a manifestation of how you feel about divorcing your spouse.  It could be that your family members would like to defend you no matter the cost, but you should be cautious about doing so because it might not be the best approach.  Remember that their advice about what you should or should not do might not be in your best interests or it might not be what is best for your kids.  Whatever advice your family members do give you, you should carefully consider and discuss with an attorney before following it.

Treating Your Spouse with Respect

Treat your spouse respectfully during divorce, especially if you have children together.  Without a basic willingness to respect your spouse, there is a good chance that the divorce will have a long-term damaging impact on your children. Remember that you and your spouse will forever be parents so you will have to have some sort of relationship because of your children.  If you do something to hurt your ex-spouse, then it could ultimately hurt your children. 

Take Care of Your Finances Properly

Do not spend all of your money on luxuries.  Pay your car note so that you have transportation to work.  Make your house payment if you can.  If you are unable to make your house payment, notify your spouse so that it will become a joint problem.  Do the same thing for your other bills.  However, any money you do have should go to protect you and your children first, then your assets, and last, your credit rating.  If you are not sure how to manage certain financial issues, discuss this with your attorney.

For Quality Legal Assistance

Are you divorcing your spouse and you are unsure of what to do? Would you like to receive sound legal advice from an experienced family law attorney? If so, then contact the family law attorneys at Smith Strong at 804-325-1245 (Richmond) or 757-941-4298 (Williamsburg) to discuss you situation.