Clients often ask how to get on with their lives as normally as possible after a divorce.
Let Time Heal Wounds
It's easy for friends and family to tell you to move on, but sometimes it's not that easy. Considering what you're dealing with, you must understand that eventually you'll recover, but it will happen at your own pace. Some people take a longer time than others. If you see that you're having trouble getting past it, it might be time to seek help.
Keep Up With Work
After a divorce, your job takes precedence. You don't want to place it into jeopardy by letting your personal issues interfere with work. Let your employer know what you're going through and keep up with all your tasks. If your job is making you unhappy, it might be aftereffects of the divorce. If you change jobs, make sure you give all the necessary notice when you leave your current job, and don't ruin any relationships that could help you in the future.
Wait at Least a Year Before Beginning a New Relationship
One of the worst mistakes you can make is to leap into a new relationship on the rebound. After a divorce, you will be vulnerable. It is a negative way to begin a new relationship when its foundation stems from the pain, anger and rejection from a divorce.
Maintain Relationships With Friends
If you had mutual friends from the marriage, this can influence your relationship with them. Some will support you, and others won't. Try to maintain a relationship with your friends. Don't take all of their advice, but use them as sounding boards to help you through your difficult time.