Divorce and Custody in Virginia: Quickly Get Back to Fully Living Your Life was written by Van H. Smith and published in 2013. As the book explains, the desired goal for the reader is to educate themselves on the appropriate steps to take during a divorce/custody agreement, and how to set their futures up for success for life in the aftermath.
The book begins with a 12-year-old boy with a dream of becoming a lawyer. He goes on to become an Honorary Iraqi Firefighter, and a William & Mary law graduate, with a revelation to start his own law firm. The law firm he created is now known as Smith l Strong, PLC. Van has built a life and career, (in less than forty years), that most people strive to create throughout their entire lifetime.
Much of the book goes into thorough detail of important steps to take during the duration of a divorce. One step that I assume is overlooked, is waiting to leave the marital residence until getting approval from an attorney. I presumed that when I was done with my marriage the logical first step would be to immediately move out of the home to start my new life. (Sounds reasonable right)? This is just an example of Van logically guiding, in the simplest of ways, the future divorcee in the right direction. Van goes into further detail on additional appropriate actions to take, such as: organizing finances, preparing a desired parenting plan, and picking a dream team. Again, each step was broken down into the simplest form, for the reader to feel confident that they are plunging into this process with the right tools.
A considerable amount of time is spent diving into custodial issues; as I’m sure that is the main concern for every parent committed to a divorce. People can be very emotional during this stage of the process. Parental alienation can be an oversight to the parent, and how to avoid it and be in control of emotions around the children was tactfully drilled into perspective. The goal for Smith l Strong, PLC is to settle custody and visitation issues outside the walls of a courthouse. This guide reminds the reader that the children’s best interests should be at the forefront, rather than the emotion felt towards their former partner.
Approachable Guide to Divorce and Custody Process
In closing, I feel I can confidently speak on the appropriate steps to take, (and not to take), during the process of a divorce or custody agreement. I would often ask myself, “Is it really just that easy?”, knowing that it isn’t, but Van wrote this publication in a way that anyone could understand. It assured me that I could share the knowledge I gained from this guide, to assist a friend in the occurrence of this devastating time in their life. I would highly recommend this knowledgeable and speedy read to anyone headed towards the uphill battle called divorce. As I learned from Divorce and Custody: Quickly Get Back to Fully Living Your Life, the process of divorce does not have to be so difficult. It can be swift and simplified, if you are willing to adapt to the changes and seek an impartial council with your best interest in mind.
--Written by Taren M., 28-year old Chesterfield County Resident